So the other day, my father told me a dreadful story where he went to nuke his leftovers in the reused cottage cheese dish. Only problem was, he got scalding hot cottage cheese instead of the lunch he was expecting. Gross! My natural assumption was holy @#$% that’s nasty, and that got me thinking about paradigms and their effect on our stress levels (Note: it’s amazing where the inspiration for my blogs comes from). Naturally, it was assumed that the cottage cheese leftover dish didn’t actually have cottage cheese in it. Oops! What a way to start the day…
As a very high stress person, I can easily get queasy and panicky if some situation doesn’t fit a blueprint paradigm that I have in my mind. Yes, I’m predictable and like sticking to my routine, but that’s how I’m wired as a person and get through life.
Almost without fail, I will play out a conversation or event in my head to run through all of the possibilities before they occur. While this makes me a stellar athlete and brutal competitor, I feel that it may slow me down as a person since spontaneity and “just go with it” aren’t really habits of mine. I’ve got a plan and I’m sticking to it (until it fails miserably!) Any time one of my paradigms is disrupted, it takes me a bit to adjust, but eventually I see the positive side of the change and let it go.
I thought this would be a great chance to talk about the many paradigms that we all hold onto… and to challenge my own. Usually, our day to day expectations are based on the paradigm that we’ve spent years establishing. We have a general idea about what our days will contain (or at least what our Outlook calendar tells us is going on) and arrange the rest where it falls into place based on the previous 365 days.
I can expect (within reason) that I will have a solid breakfast at around 7:15 am, after an hour and a half of exercise, and then off to work. Between 8 and 5 I’ll be fulfilling my job duties, and post work activities will either include dinner with friends, a Netflix movie, orchestra rehearsal, or a walk by the river. But where do we lose that sense of adventure? Do we allow our expectations for the day, week, or month to ruin the spontaneity of the moment or the thrill of living on the edge?
Anyways, keep this in mind as you go through the week. Life is what you make of it, don’t let your “plans” get in the way :-) Do you have a hard time letting go of your plans?