Happy Friday to you all!
This is the last post for 2012. THANK GOODNESS!
I would be remiss in saying that this year has been boring. In fact, just the opposite. It was never boring and here we are at the end of a crazed 366 days. It is always like a breath of fresh air coming upon clean calendars, a new batch of 24 hour days that have yet to be planned, and 8760 untainted hours that have yet to be populated with fun activities, schoolwork, chores, bills, stressful activities, fantastic social events, etc.
The end of the year is a great time for reflection, dwelling on the twisting, turning road which your life has gone down over the past months, enjoying your successes, learning from your failures, anticipating the good things to come. Life isn’t a box of chocolates. It’s a whole chocolate factory! You get out what you put into it… and hopefully you are putting a lot into it.
2011 was epic. Truly, it was amazing. 2012. Well, 2012 was the antithesis of epic. Perhaps unepic… or disappointing… or maybe it was just not as epic as 2011 but still had good things about it. We’ll go with that. Odd years always seem to produce something amazing. Even years seem to be easily forgettable, but when push comes to shove I suppose it’s the fun plus the unfun things that make life what it actually is… full of constant change and never boring.
I suppose that always having an adventure-packed, phenomenal year would make the good years much less special, although it seems like that would be the preferred method of travel through life. I look at those around me and it seems that many are also having a less-than-stellar year. Perhaps it’s a reflection of the economic times, or better yet, maybe that’s just normal to have good years and lousy years *gasp* !
All in all, I suppose that 2012 wasn’t an entire waste. I learned much from my grad classes and largely expanded my business knowledge library, I went on some awesome road trips, spent quality time with friends, took up ballroom dancing, purchased a sweet racing bike, went to a foreign country, and got quality time with my family. I guess things weren’t so bad :-) Perhaps the greatest encouragement is that despite how distasteful this year was, 2013 is bound to be better. There isn’t a way that 2013 will be worse than this year, although it will have its downer moments, but it has been setup as a year for success! Talk about light at the end of the tunnel.
Lessons learned from 2012:
- The past is history – Once an event or decision has occurred it is in the past, and if you don’t learn from the past then that fault lies squarely on your shoulders. It is a waste of energy dwelling on things we wished we had done or events we hope we could change. The best that we can do is learn from those events and decisions and move on. The past won’t be so easily changed.
- Things will always be different – As much as I wanted my Christmas to be “just like before,” it just wasn’t going to happen. People change, circumstances are always evolving, and friends aren’t always who you remember them being. Change is always to be expected, I just expect that to not always be the case.
- Press on, press on – It would be a gross failure to just roll over and give up when times get tough. You must press on. You must continue up the mountain. No one is going to do the hard work for you and you owe it to yourself to strive forward despite the odds.
- Patience is a virtue – Patience is something I loathe. I am not a fan of being patient at all. I don’t want to be patient and I certainly don’t want to wait while my life unfolds. On the flip-side, it is far better to be patient than to make rash decisions, rush into things that are bad for you, or even make dumb choices that have a negative impact on your life. I am always a fan of pros and cons lists, and it is far better to sit back and assess and ponder and dwell on something patiently than to rush headfirst into a bramble bush.
- Stick to your guns – Even those closest to you while not fight your battles for you. You must stick to your beliefs, hang onto your gut feeling, and persevere through thick and thin. If life was easy, there would be more successful people around, but it isn’t. It is when we are in our deepest valleys that we must cling to what we believe, even if it casts us on the outside of the circle and is the road less chosen because it is more difficult.
- Be true to yourself first – Far too many, myself included, think of taking care of others before taking care of ourselves. There is nothing wrong with that initially but you can’t shirk your responsibility and duty to taking care of yourself because no one else will. We know ourselves the best, we know how we work, operate, think, hope, and dream. The moment we stop being true to ourselves we head like a derailed train for disaster. There is nothing wrong with putting a portion of yourself to the side, but when we sacrifice who we are as a person to fit into someone else’s box then we have done an incredible disservice. It’s not healthy and it isn’t true to our being. Short of family, we are our number one priority, and there is nothing wrong with keeping it that way.
I hope that 2013 brings you many exciting and new adventures. I have far too many on the books to list, but I know that it will be a great year. If nothing else, I will be a little more grown up when 2014 comes rolling around, and have an MBA and Ironman finisher’s medal to boot. I seem to keep forgetting that life is the journey and combination of the adventures, not necessarily where I am heading. Perhaps I will learn that lesson one day…